There's a Chinese saying illustrated in [[🎬 The Farewell]]: > When people get cancer, they die.[^TheFarewellCancer] The [[Self-Coaching Model]] allows us to better understand the fear underlying this belief[^TheFarewell]. > [!NOTE] > This is a hypothetical example. Aside from the circumstances, the rest does not actually take place in the movie. - **Circumstances:** Billi's grandmother (Nai Nai) is brought to the hospital by her grandmother's sister (Little Nai Nai). Nai Nai is diagnosed with terminal lung cancer. The doctor tells Little Nai Nai that Nai Nai may only have a few months left to live. - **Thought:** Nothing I do matters anymore. - **Feeling:** Hopeless. - **Actions:** Not exercising; Not eating healthy; Refusing treatment; Spending all day in bed - **Results:** Deteriorating health. [^TheFarewell]: [[The Farewell - Billi's family conceals the grandmother's terminal diagnosis]] [^TheFarewellCancer]: [[The Farewell - Chinese people have saying "When people get cancer they die."]]