## Introduction ## #1 Places We Go When Things Are Uncertain or Too Much ## #2 Places We Go When We Compare ## #3 Places We Go When Things Don’t Go as Planned ## #4 Places We Go When It’s Beyond Us ## #5 Places We Go When Things Aren’t What They Seem ## #6 Places We Go When We’re Hurting ## #7 Places We Go with… ## #8 Places We Go When We Fall Short ## #9 Places We Go When We Search for Connection ## #10 Places We Go When the Heart Is Open ## #11 Places We Go When Life Is Good ## #12 Places We Go When We Feel Wronged ### Anger #### What I’ve Learned, Unlearned, and Continue to Learn About Anger. Dammit. ### Contempt ### Disgust #### Understanding Disgust - With disgust, inferiority is not the issue, the feeling is more physical—we want to avoid being “poisoned” (either literally or figuratively). ([Location 2971](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B097416CTT&location=2971)) - Circling back to the question posed by Jonathan Haidt: How does an emotion that is hardwired to protect us from actual toxins and poisons become something that we feel toward other people? Researchers explain that core disgust is thought to protect the body from ingestion of contaminants, while disgust in an interpersonal context is thought to “protect” us from unseemly behavior or contamination of the soul. ([Location 2983](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B097416CTT&location=2983)) - ![[Atlas of the Heart - Once we dehumanize people, violence and cruelty toward them become]] - Another difference that makes disgust more dangerous is that once a target is viewed with disgust, this judgment seems to be permanent; evaluations of disgust seem to indicate a reprehensible moral character that is immutable and unforgivable. At least with anger, an apology or reparation has the potential to reverse the damage done. ([Location 2998](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B097416CTT&location=2998)) ### Dehumanization ### Hate ### Self-Righteousness ## #13 Places We Go to Self-Assess ## Cultivating Meaningful Connection